Welcome, wanderer!
This person's name is Hugo and he uses he/him pronouns. Welcome to the chaos.
just painted an onion on a cutting board and i think it’s the peak of my artistic career
look at her…
she gets stronger!
the full painting is finally complete!
This is giving me emotions that I myself do not fully understand
Maybe you're just tearing up because someone has been cutting onions
I don’t know who cares to hear this but if someone asks you to hang out and you can’t but you genuinely want to hang out with them, let them know that the time(s) they suggested don’t work for you and offer new times that do.
If you just say you “can’t/that time doesn’t work” with no follow up, it communicates a disinterest (to a lot of people) just a little tip on maintaining relationships
And if you’re not sure when you’ll be able to, you can say that! I’ve had to say to friends many times, “I’m not sure if I’ll be able to hang out this weekend because my fatigue has been bad this week. Can I get in touch when I feel better, and we can plan something then?”
The answer has always been yes.
It's also totally valid, if someone proposes a high energy activity but you don't have the spoons for it, to ask if you can meet up and do something else instead.
if you need permission to speak plainly about your needs, this is it. you can literally say any variation on im really glad you texted, ive been wanting to hang out with you but was finding it hard to get organised, that time doesnt work for me, im not sure when will, im worried ill forget to text if we leave it too long, can you ask me again on wednesday etc etc etc
tangentially related:
runs some usual limitations of having a modest sample size of primarily university students and focusing more on transitional times of life (from high school to college), but really emphasizes influencing factors of relationship decay; emotional closeness is impacted by changes in contact frequency and activity.
the link doesn't show the second article's title but it's The Surprise of Reaching Out: Appreciated More Than We Think, which has this to say:
Initiating social contact after a prolonged period of disconnect can feel daunting for various reasons, one of which is uncertainty
about how such a gesture might be received. When people take the initiative to reach out, they risk being rejected, and this worry
could keep them from reaching out in the first place. Indeed, social rejection is a highly negative and painful social experience
(Eisenberger, 2012; Leary, 2010; Williams et al., 2000) that people are motivated to avoid given the fundamental need to belong and to feel socially connected with others (Baumeister & Leary, 1995). Our findings take some of this challenge out by demonstrating that responders highly appreciate being reached out to and that initiators in fact systematically underestimate the extent of this appreciation.
basically, maintaining a frequent and open line of communication is helpful for maintaining relationships, which may seem like an obvious statement, but bears consideration
i think we should start turning trains into furry dragons like we did with airplanes
example:
I, THE DRIVER BEHIND YOU AT THIS STOPLIGHT, HAVE DEDUCED THAT YOU COULD HAVE THREADED THAT LEFT TURN BETWEEN THOSE TWO CARS IF YOU FLOORED IT BEARING 92° SOUTH AND CAUGHT THE WIND.
HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK HONK
I am very intrigued by this paragraph from the Missouri department of conservation website that seems to suggest people try hand-feeding injured flies to sand wasps
it's always funny when someone comments on eurodance like "why don't they make music like this anymore" because they DO and it's one of the most creatively stagnant genres on earth (spoken with love in my heart for it)
all you need to make eurodance is one female vocalist (mediocre-to-incredible), one male vocalist who Cannot sing but can say shit like "I'm a sex king man with a party plan / international nation hand in hand" in a deep voice, and an apartment somewhere in italy
I only just fucking put together why this post started getting notes again
Link to Kickstarter where you can preorder your copy!! Also, link to my commissions if you like whatcha see!✨✨✨
